Are you aware of the impact that your words can have on your life? Not only the things that we say to others aloud, but the internal thoughts that we tell ourselves too. Perhaps we don’t quite realise the power of words over our own mood, and also our lives. One of the phrases that is perhaps the most frequently used, and arguably the most detrimental, is the words “I will try.”
Consider these two phrases. “I will try to have my work completed by Friday.” “I will have my work completed by Friday.” The only difference is the word “I will try.” And yet, it gives the phrase such different meaning. It is providing yourself with the permission to not succeed, like a safety net. It shows that you do not feel that you are really capable or confident in completing the task. You are setting yourself up for failure, before you have even really begun. On the other hand, saying “I will,” suggests that failure is not even a potential option. We are afraid to use it, because implying that we will succeed holds us fully accountable for our actions, in the chance that we do not manage to succeed.
The words “I will try” will cloud our intentions. Thinking “I will,” will make the completion of the task much easier, create a positive mood, and move yourself to a position of being able to succeed. Believe that you are truly capable.
It you really desire to do something, to complete something. The thought of trying should not even cross your mind. Just do it. Get it done. You will achieve it, if you truly believe that you can, persist and put all of your effort in, nothing is unachievable.
We can understand the influence of our words, by looking deeper at a term known as NLP. NLP stands for Neuro-linguistic programming. It is the programming of the language functions in our mind. Most of us have a disconnect with our unconscious mind. We can think about the goal setter being our conscious mind, and our unconscious mind as the goal getter. Our unconciousness mind is not seeking to ruin our goals, but quite opposingly, seeks to help us achieve the things which we desire. However, if we continue to create a disconnect between or conscious and unconscious mind, not understanding how to communicate our desires, we cannot expect the outcome that we want.
Our subconscious and conscious mind differ significantly. The more persistent voice within our head is our conscious mind, we are more aware of it. It affects 5% of our ability to process Contrastingly, the subconscious mind influences 95%. The subconscious mind has more wisdom and is usually right, although our conscious mind speaks louder. The subconscious mind’s wisdom come from its ability to reflect on lesson learnt from experiences in the past and to see in all directions. It can help us to optimise our here and now decisions. However, if negative words and thoughts are repeated in our conscious mind, such as phrases including the word ‘try,’ this will affect the power of the subconscious mind as it begins to accept these thoughts as real and true. If negative phrases can have such an impact over our mind and actions, think of the value and benefit that repeated positive words and phrases can have on our actions.
There are ways to help yourself to have a more positive mindset. Consider the words you say and think. Capture them, before they come out of your mouth. Perhaps you are not even aware of how much you use this phrase. Maybe you do not realise the power these words have over your actions. Be aware of when, and consider why, you are using the phrase “I will try.” Focus on using more action statements. “I will” and “I can” and “I am going to,” are just a few examples. Replace your words with the statement “I will.” This will help set your intention, helping to connect the conscious and subconscious mind. Put your words into the here and know, helping you to achieve the things which you desire.
“Do, or Do Not. There is no try” – Yoda from Star Wars
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